Ok, so… you don’t need my second ticket?

No, I told you. I’m going to the game with Gavin.

I’ll try to get you ticket(s) as well, but you may want to also try.

Ok, so.. Can you call Connor and tell him the plan.

What plan?

That you don’t need my second ticket, so its available for him.

Do you already have tickets?

No, but I’m confident I’ll get some. And he needs to know the plan soon, so he can make arrangements to get there.

So, why do I have to call and tell him. I haven’t talked to him since the game a couple years ago.

Audrey, just do it; please.

That was the conversation I just had with Wendy. I’m at a loss as to why she wants me to call Connor. Sure in college, 30 years ago I was better friends with him at first, but they definitely became closer. And shit, last home game we were all in town for, they were absolutely buddy buddy. I recognized something was a little off, but not enough that I’d have to holla at him this time.

Let me go back to the begining, 30ish years ago. We all went to the same college. Wendy and I were sorority sisters. Gavin was in a fraternity, that happened to be like our brother fraternity. We did everything with them. I had actually known Gavin since high school, we had gone to the same summer camp. I noticed that they had gotten pretty close, he started to bring her to football games often, and they were usually each others dates for formals and such. Always as friends they said. We are just great friends.

I tended to believe that. Especially since, I new she had a boyfriend of sorts. I had never personally met Chas, but some of our sisters had, and why would she lie. So, I guess Wendy and Chas’s parents knew each other; and there was some sort of old school promise of their kids to marry to keep the families close. Wendy would sneak off evry few weekends to go and see Chas, and she always talked about him.
Our senior year, when Wendy and Connor had gotten really close, Amy told me she saw Wendy on more than one occassion spend the night in Connor’s room. That didn’t mean too much on it’s own, I’d fallen alseep in Connor’s room before. No big deal.

Then Amy swore that on the bus ride home from formal, Wendy and Connor were making out on the bus. Amy was sitting behind them, and saw and heard their tryst. When confronted about it Wendy just said Amy was drunk and didn’t know what she was seeing. Years later, Amy, Wendy & I were together, and Amy brought it up. Wendy told her she was wrong, that Amy was sitting in front of her and she has to witness Amy & Geoff making out. My initial thought was, hmm, Wendy’s story changed and Amy’s did not. So mabe Amy was right.

A few years later, the three of us were together again, hanging out on the beach. Wendy constantly talked about Connor, how he recently got a new job, about his relationship with his wife, their children. She constantly brought him up. Sure we knew most of the same things she told us, we were all Facebook friends with him, and had seen it all. I don’t remember who brought up that senior year formal, but it again came up. Wendy’s story this time started with similar denial of that didn’t happen. Then Amy asked about the nights she saw her leave his room in the fraternity house. Wendy was shocked. She first claimed that never happened. Then succumbed to the truth and admitted that she did spend the night there once or twice. Amy interoggated her on what happened.

Wendy then finally admitted to making out with Connor on the bus, Amy was elated and pissed at the same time. Wendy then went into full confession mode about her secret affair with Connor. Secret from Chas of course. Whom by the way, she never married or really saw much after college. That’s when I asked about when Connor started to date his now wife Meghann. She went to school with us too, but was in a different sorority, we didn’t really hang out in college, but I had a class or two with her, so sorta knew her. Sure at different weddings since college, we’ve hung out. Wendy was adamant she never spent the night with Connor after he started to date Meghann.

That night, we called Connor together on speakerphone and chatted with him for a few minutes. It was fun and reminenscent. We made plans to go to our alma mater’s homecoming the next year. We all met up, Connor brought Meghann and we all had a blast. We decided to make it a thing and go every few years.

Last time, Meghann and Connor had another newborn, so Meghann decided to stay home close to her newest baby, but let Connor come meet up with us. A handful of his frat brothers came that year too. It was a huge group of us. We had a blast. A couple of times while tailgating I lost track of Wendy. The last time, she turned up with none other than Chas. I finally got to meet him. There was definitely some weirdness going on. But whatever, I didn’t think much of it until later when Tony mentioned after the game how weird Connor got when Chas was there.

The next morning, we all met up for breakfast before we headed out. Wendy and I drove together, I live just an hour from her, so it made sense. Last minute, Connor announced, that he was riding back with us, Wendy was going to drop him off at the airport. That 2 hour car ride was the longest 2 hours of my life. They barely tallked to each other, or me. I tried to bring up all kinds of topics, they would answer me when I asked a direct question, but that’s about it.

As soon as we got to Wendy’s I jumped in my car and headed home. Almost a year later, Wendy got shitfaced and confessed some of what happened that weekend. Apparently the night of the game, they both snuck out of the hotel rooms to meet up, without any of the rest of us knowing. We weren’t even in the same hotel, they were close, but that’s some dedication. Apparently they got in a row about Chas, Connor was jealous. Wendy made it sound like her and Connor had been having an affair of sorts, and he said he’d even leave his wife. When Wendy showed back up with Chas, I guess Chas told Connor there was no need to leave his wife, that Wendy was his. So basically back-off. So that night, they argued about it, and then had a passionate kiss. Then fought about what to do next some more. Before they returned to their rooms, Connor decided he made a mistake, and was going to give another chance with his wife, and told Wendy they should end their affair.
Wendy admitted to be pissed, and said some really mean things, and even threatened to tell Meghann about the affair.

Apparently, once I left, Connor got a notification his plane had been delayed by a few hours. After he told Wendy, she said, he grabbed her by the hair and kissed her; and said let’s go inside. She said they had the most passionate sex they ever did, and is plane was rescheduled for the next day, so they spent an amazing night together. We didn’t talk much about Connor after that drunken confession. They didn’t live in the same town, so I sorta dismissed the seriousness of their affair.
I was super confused as to why she wanted me to tell Connor.
Fast forward to this game, Wendy ended up getting tickets with Chas, and didn’t say much else about Connor since I refused to call him. About half the group that showed up last time had planned to come, so we all made a game plan to meet up.

Before Wendy showed up, I was chatting with Tony about Connor, who did not make it to this game. Tony’s wife, Abby was sorority sisters with Meghann, and they had recently moved to the same county, and hung out often. Tony spilled all the beans about Connor and Wendy.
Starting to when we were in college, when Wendy used to spend the night with Connor, apparently that did happen a time or two, but most the time, Tony admitted that Wendy was found sleeping in Connor’s bed when Connor was shacking up with Meghann. I guess once or twice, he came home in the morning and screamed at her for being stalkery. Wendy and Connor weren’t best friends; she wasn’t at the wedding, and from what he heard they didn’t really talk for many years. A few time in more recent years, it sounded like they had reconnected and were friends; but things got weird. After the last time they were all at the game, Tony said Connor admitted that he did fuck Wendy, but it was the first and only time they ever hooked up. And she got him super drunk first, and he regretted it immediately.

Feeling sooo guilty, he confessed to Meghann, and begged for forgiveness. She made him work for it, but did forgive him. Citing some of their interactions from college, and his gumption for being honest with her immediately. But then, Wendy started to get stalkery again. At first, it seemed fine. She would comment on every Facebook post, like every single one. Then she’d text him every few days. Within a couple of months, she was texting, messaging and calling all the time. Eventually, Meghann had enough and asked Connor to cut off his friendship with her. They argued about it, but conceded something had to give. He talked to Wendy about it, and she was apparently astonished that there was an issue. She agreed to back off. In reality, Wendy figured out new ways to reach out, she used WhatsApp, and Facebook messenger. One night, Meghann had Connor’s phone while he was asleep on the couch, and saw the messages. She told Wendy that from now on, she should only call or text, that “he” had changed her contact to a name that Meghann wouldn’t know. Then Meghann blocked her on every single thing. She didn’t tell Connor for a while that she had done that.
Eventually, he figured it out, but realized it was for the best.

OMG, that made so much more sense on the whole situation.

So is one drunken night with a stalker really an illict affair?